Eileen Galindo, Actress and Voice-Over Artist – Taking Part in Webisodes, the New Wave of the Future.

Eileen Galindo, Actress and Voice-Over Artist – Taking Part in Webisodes, the New Wave of the Future.

Eileen Galindo is an actress who has appeared in several TV shows and films, including The Super, “NYPD Blue,” “Strong Medicine,” “ER,” “Girlfriends,” “Third Watch,” “Law & Order,” etc. She is also a successful voice-over artist and has performed in “Dora the Explorer,” “In Justice,” and “Phineas and Ferb.” Her theater work is extensive, as she has appeared in the following plays: “Romeo and Juliet,” “Real Women Have Curves,” etc.

I visited Eileen at her home in Los Angeles and she spoke of her experiences as a voice-over artist, an actress, and the business in general.

You’re on an Internet show?

I’m doing a show called “In the Motherhood.” It airs on inthemotherhood.com. It stars Leah Remedy, Chelsea Handler, and me; and Lanie Kazane plays the mom. Webisodes are growing in our market. They are finding a way to tie in content with products. For example, my character, Maria, is talking about the trouble she’s having with her life and is talking on her Sprint cell phone.

What is a webisode?

It is written just like a regular sitcom about five minutes in length, and they cut to consumer-generated products.

You’re also a voice-over actress?

I do a lot of cartoons. I play the mom on “Dora the Explorer” on Nickelodeon CBS, “Phineas and Ferb” from the directors of “Sponge Bob Square Pants” and “Hey Arnold“. This one‘s about two little boys and their little adventures. I play a nosy next-door neighbor. It’s a lot of fun. You get to use your imagination. Your voices are matched to a cartoon character, and you get to hide behind the animation.

How did you get into that?

I’ve always done voices since I was a little kid. My parents gave me a tape recorder. I would do radio dramas. (Eileen knocks on something and shouts, “Who’s there?“) I would do the shoes climbing up the stairs. I would do the whole thing. Pretty much I lived in my mind. A lot of voice-over artists live in their heads. You can do a whole cartoon yourself.

So in order to be a voice over artist, you have to be borderline schizophrenic?

It helps, and to be un-medicated. I also do commercials. I have accounts for Suburu, Burger King, etc. Every job seems to top itself. I learn something from everything I do. My philosophy towards acting and being in this business is that I enjoy the work when it’s there.And when it’s not there, I’m always looking for the next job. I pretty much don’t focus on the down time. I’ve got real estate investments, voice-over work … there is always something I have to do.

What advice would you give to somebody trying to make it in this industry?

I fall into a category I think the most important thing is to work on your craft and to be cordial and friendly with everyone you work with. Because the same people you see on the way up are the same people you’ll see on the way down. Just try to be as professional as possible. And try not to take it too personal. When you don’t get chosen for a project, it’s not anything personal. I look at it this way. It’s apples and oranges. I try to be the best orange I can be. If they’re picking an apple, I’m not going to be picked, but if they’re picking an orange that day, I try to be the best orange available that they are going to pick me out of the lot. Or give them something that they weren’t looking for so they can change their minds.

As an actress/voice-over artist, in order for you to get work, do you need an agent or is it something you do on your own?

Yes. A lot of people think I have only one agent. I actually have fifteen agents. When you add up all the agencies. I work with three different agencies, one on the West Coast and one on the East Coast. When you count all of the agents, agents alone are fifteen, not including assistants. Each agent has an assistant. I deal with about thirty people a week, depending on what the project is. That’s how you keep working. Get with agencies that are a fair size. It doesn’t have to be with ICM to get full coverage or representation. I have one agency that just represents me for voice-overs, another one that represents me for commercials, and another one that represents me for television, film, and theater.

I’d like to demystify this business for people. I think people think it’s really hard to be an actor, and it’s not. You get to do what you love to do. I really love what I do, whether I’m getting paid for it, or I’m taking a class. For me, I get to live my dream every day!

Tell me about your philanthropic efforts.

I have a philosophy about giving. When you get, you have to give to keep the energy going. When Hurricane Katrina hit, a lot of people were donating to the Red Cross or Salvation Army. I have difficulties with a lot of traditional charitable organizations. They have such a high overhead, only 20% of your dollar actually goes to help whoever is in need. The rest goes to administrative costs. The Red Cross, who do a lot of great work, take in your money, and they decide where your money goes. And then they bank the rest of the money for future catastrophies. That may be a great way to look at things for some people, but when you give your hard earned money, you want to know that it’s going to the cause for which you are donating. So when Katrina happened, I had six empty apartments. I could afford to put up one family. I got an immediate response from one couple and people donated towels, bed linens, bed, furniture. One of my friends put me on to the “List,” a closed email network for well-to-do celebrities. Suddenly there were Jaguars and Rolls Royces donating designer clothes and gift certificates for stores in town. They were happy to see where their money was going.

You are also involved with SAG?

I was on the board for Screen Actors Guild for three years. I worked a lot with Actors’ Equity Association, which is the stage union, the primary thrust when I first turned professional in this business. I got politically active right away. At that time, there were very few people of color in any stage shows on Broadway. If you were a black performer, you got to do a show if there was a black show on Broadway. If there was tap dancing required, then you had a job. And if they were doing a revival of West Side Story, then all the Latinos could work. If they were doing Pacific Overtures, all the Asians could work. But other than that, they basically kept you out. We started a movement, a nontraditional casting project, and the Actors’ Equity Association and the Equal Opportunity’s community there, the EEOC … we started to picket, to institute meetings with producers from the Producers’ League to let them see our side of it. And it did work. By the end of the first three years, Broadway started becoming more integrated. Will Rogers Follies, which was a Broadway show that had predominantly Anglo dances…they said at that period of time in history, there wouldn’t be any African-Americans in the show. We proved them wrong. Stephanie Pope, Broadway singer and dancer, starred in the show and took a part that would have originally been played by a Caucasian. That was huge! We were relegated to chorus, and chorus that was ethnic specific. So things started to change. It wore on me. It was very taxing, but I am really happy that I was involved in that.

In the MotherhoodLastly, where do you see webisodes going in the future?

Web content is going to be huge. This is going to be the wave of the future. Our show can be downloaded to your cell phone. Everything is changing.

Visit www.inthemotherhood.com

Interviewed by Kaylene Peoples

Son-Rise – The Miracle Continues

Book Review
Son-Rise – The Miracle Continues

Barry Neil Kaufman

There’s nothing like a true story made into a book, made into a television movie to get one inspired, and Barry Kaufman’s Son-Risedid just that for me.  This is the story of a child with autism.  Barry and his wife Samahria Kaufman gave birth to Raun, who exhibited all the characteristics of a normal child.  He was developing normally, but at four weeks old, Raun battled with an ear infection that spread thoughout his nose and throat, Raun was treated with antibiotics, which caused a severe dehydration, eventually landing him in the hospital for several days.  The treatment had severe side effects and the doctors feared he would have permanent hearing loss.  Finally, the Kaufmans were allowed to take their infant home.  At first, Raun developed normally, but eventually he started exhibiting unusual behavior, giving Samahria and Barry cause for concern.  He was detached and shunned all human touch.  Raun was eventually diagnosed as severely autistic.

Samahria and Barry went through a series of tests only to be told there was no cure.  The best they could hope for was that maybe Raun would eventually learn a few skills, like dressing himself and uttering robotic responses.  But eventually he would be institutionalized.  Against the odds, Samahria decided to take action, ignoring the doctor’s advice.  She decided that she was going to reach her son, no matter what it took.  She had no expectations, only acceptance—she wanted to connect with her child.  The best way that she knew how to do that was to enter his world in hopes that he would feel safe enough to eventually enter hers.

Samahria spent every waking hour mimicking Raun’s behavior.  If he spun a plate, she spun a plate.  If he threw his food, she threw her food.  If he jumped up and down, so did she.  And she did all this in the tiny bathroom of their home.  She chose the bathroom because there wasn’t much in there that Raun could destroy, and it was a place where they always had their interaction.  Eventually, Raun began to respond.  The Kaufman family eventually all got involved, including Raun’s two older sisters, Byrn and Thea.  The Kaufmans elicited help from volunteers to get involved with treating their son.  And with time, patience, and a few setbacks, Raun began to develop like a toddler and eventually showed no signs of autism.

The doctors who had diagnosed him as autistic were astounded. Caseworkers and teachers of special education programs came to observe Raun’s daily routine.  In their opinion, it was a miracle.

What moved me the most about Son-RiseThe Miracle Continues is the amount of love this family had for their child.  They gave up a lot to be able to connect with him and to be in his world.  They also took a big chance, not knowing the outcome.  Their methods were unorthodox, but safe.  There were no drugs involved, only dietary changes.

The Kaufmans eventually created their own institute, showing parents how to work with their autistic children—the main medicine being unconditional love and acceptance.  And to this day, The Option Institute has helped thousands of children rise above autism, as well as a host of other related and non-related disorders.  Raun, who is now completely recovered, is the director of The Option Institute.

Son-Rise was first published over thirty years ago.  A television movie about autism was based on that book.  It offered hope to those families who were told there was no cure for autism.  The newly published Son-Rise, The Miracle Continues has three parts.  The first part is about the struggle and the eventual success of Raun Kaufman.  Part two of this book explores Raun’s development from childhood at age four to becoming a young adult.

Part three interviews five other families who went through similar circumstances and were victorious over their child’s diagnosis.  All five families have inspiring success stories, and their once unreachable children are now happy, thriving, and functional beings.  These testimonies offer hope along with the limitless opportunities.

This is a must read.  I read the 346-page book from cover to cover in just 48 hours, unable to put it down. Autism is a growing epidemic, and could affect you or someone you know.  Son-Rise, The Miracle Continues teaches us to be more accepting of people’s differences.  It teaches us to love unconditionally, and it is a true testimony to what the human mind is really capable of.

Son-Rise, The Miracle Continues can be purchased at most bookstores everywhere.

Reviewed by Kaylene Peoples

Recommended Reading: One Child by Torey L. Hayden, Copyright 1980

When special-education teacher Torey Hayden wrote her first bookOne Child almost two decades ago, she created an international bestseller.  Her intensely moving true story of Sheila, a silent, profoundly disturbed little six-year-old girl, touched millions. From every corner of the world came letters from readers wanting to know more about the troubled child who had come into Torey Hayden’s class as a “hopeless case,” and emerged as the very symbol of eternal hope within the human spirit.

The Tiger’s Child by Torey L. Hayden, Copyright 1995, the sequel toOne Child.

NONFICTION

Description by Amazon.com

Raun Kaufman – Proof There Is Life After Autism Spectrum Disorder

I was very moved when I heard about Raun Kaufman, who as a child was diagnosed with severe Autism Spectrum Disorder, and against all odds, his parents invented a radical form of treatment, which caused him not only to stop certain behaviors associated with autism, but to recover completely from the disorder.  Over 30 years ago, the best-selling book Son-Rise was written about Raun, and an NBC television movie based on his recovery followed. In honor of Autism Awareness month in April, and the shocking rising number of children diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder, Agenda Magazine has interviewed the man who fully recovered from that disorder and now heads the Autism Treatment Center of America, Raun Kaufman.

So you’re the person the book Son-Rise was written about.

It’s really an amazing position to be in because growing up I was the son.   Now, as the CEO of the Autism Treatment Center of America, I get to guide the organization and help families, parents, and children in really the same way my parents helped me.

What would you call autism?

It is often called a disorder.  You may have heard Autism Spectrum Disorder.  And that’s because there are really a whole spectrum of different children and adults who have what you might call different levels of autism.   Some children have no language at all and spend their entire day doing certain repetitive activities like lining up toy cars, whereas other children or adults might be much more verbal but nevertheless still have a lot of difficulty in communicating socially, making friends and making connections, as well as telling people how they feel about things.  So there’s a whole huge, broad spectrum, and we work with a whole range of different children.

In your experience, which have you seen the most of, extreme cases or sort of the middle of the road cases like those children who are somewhat functioning in society?

We see a pretty even distribution in a lot of cases of children.  We might work with a three-year-old who is totally nonverbal, or we might work with a 12-year-old who is also nonverbal.  We might work with a 10-year-old who is speaking full sentences but really needs a lot of help with social communication.  There is an increase in autism, which is now 1 in 150, and we definitely more recently have seen an increase of younger kids with their families come across our path who have gotten a diagnosis.  A lot of them have lower levels of verbal communication and interaction—at least when parents first come to us.  Obviously one of the things we’re most trying to help them with is to help their children to communicate more, connect with other people, form relationships with other people, by choice and by inspiration, versus doing that because they’re being trained with rewards like M&Ms and food, the more typical way to try to help autistic children to behave like more “neuro” typical children.

Tell me about when you had Autism Spectrum Disorder?

As a little baby I was faced with all these different ear infections and some of them quite life threatening.  And then there was a whole period where it was sort of touch and go for awhile, and then finally it looked like I was doing better, and then all of a sudden they noticed I wasn’t speaking or communicating.  I didn’t look at them, nor did I even allow them to touch me, and if they did, I was non-reactive.  I didn’t respond to sound.   People thought I might have been deaf.  I spent all day doing repetitive activities like spinning plates over and over again and rocking back and forth and flapping my hands in front of my face.  My parents knew this was not typical behavior, so they took me to specialists in an attempt to [ascertain] what was wrong with me.  They were told what so many parents that we work with are told:  “You’re an over-reactive, overprotective parent.  Albert Einstein didn’t talk till he was four.”  That’s the kind of message so many parents get.  Eventually, as my disorder got more severe, and they saw more specialists, they told them that I was severely autistic, that I would never learn to talk or interact with them, that I would spin plates and rock back and forth 10-20 years.

So it’s really amazing what they did in the face of all of that.  They really wanted to help me and reach out for me.  And what they were offered, to try and get help for me, was very invasive kinds of treatments based on behavior modification techniques to stamp out my autistic behaviors, and then through repetitive action, I would be trained to have more “normal” behaviors.  And they really felt like this just was not the way to go for me.   A lot of these children were really being pushed and pulled, and it seemed to them that they didn’t yet understand all the dynamics of autism, but it seemed pretty clear to them that I wasn’t going to be brought into their world by force.  And that, yes, they could probably get me to eat with silverware or dress myself, but that wasn’t what they were looking for.   They were looking for a real connection, as well as helping me to want to  make this real connection.  So they began to create and pioneer this new program that is in the book—the Son-Rise program.  They worked with me for actually a little over three years, and they started by doing something that was hugely controversial—it’s still one of the more controversial aspects of the program.  Instead of forcing me to conform to this world, which I didn’t understand yet, they started by joining me in my world.   So if I was spinning plates, instead of taking the plate away, which everyone told them to do, they actually got a plate, sat down next to me and spun those plates with me.  And you could imagine people walking in seeing this and saying to them, “This is the worst possible thing you can do.  You’re just going to reinforce the behaviors that you’re trying to change.”  And they luckily—and I thank God for this—didn’t listen to that at the time.  [My parents] really saw that first they wanted to let me show them the way in, so that they could show me the way out.  They joined me in these behaviors as a starting point, and that was actually the first time that I started looking at them, including them in my play, acknowledging them, and connecting with them.  It opened the doorway so that they could teach me how to communicate and talk and connect with people.  And we’ve been doing this since the mid-’70s, when I was a kid, and this Autism Treatment Center, which started in 1983—we’ve worked now with thousands of parents from all different countries.  When you join these children in their world, it doesn’t reinforce the behavior but actually helps create a connection with these children so that they don’t need to do the behaviors so much.  They become more interested in the people that love them, like their parents.

Exactly how old were you when they started this radical idea?

I was 18 months.  I really got into full swing by the time I was two, and then they worked with me.  By the time I was five, I was pretty much a typical child.  I went to regular schools, and no one knew about my past unless I told them or unless they read the book or saw the movie.  I think it was very smart that they got on top of it as soon as possible.  Early intervention is helpful, but I often hear people say, “Well, they started really early.  If you don’t get a start that early for a child, there certainly isn’t much hope for them.”  But we work with children who are 18 months, or 2-1/2 years old, children who are 10 or 12 or 15.  We worked with this boy, for instance, who was 16 years old.  He was completely mute and had no language.  And his mother was told that there was a chance for him to learn language, but he was16 years old, so if he hadn’t learned it by now, he would never be able to learn it—his brain already formed.  Six months into her Son-Rise program, her son after six months was speaking to her in full sentences.   Now, he didn’t go on to fully recover in the way that I did, but he was able to communicate in full sentences and really tell his mother what he wanted, and have a connection with her and with other people—and that didn’t even start until he was 16.  So we get children and adults who are capable of so much change because the brain is so plastic and so capable of growth and change, you know, in the same way that a 70-year-old stroke victim can relearn to talk and learn to use parts of his body.

So there is hope for a ten-year-old.   My housekeeper has a ten-year-old grandson who is completely nonfunctional.

What does he do with himself during the day?

He rocks, he jumps, he’s super hyperactive.  He’s constantly jerking up and down.  He likes to be naked a lot.  He won’t wear his clothes. He only knows one or two words.  He seems to kind of understand when they tell him no.  He’ll stop, but he has absolutely no speech of any kind.  They were told it was because of his vaccinations, but do they even know what causes this?

Gosh, that is such a source of controversy in the media and in other areas, that they don’t ultimately know with any degree of certainty what causes autism.  There’s a lot of speculation and a lot of theories.  And fortunately there are a lot of studies to try and figure this out, but there’s no definitive explanation.  There seems to be some evidence that points to a possible interaction between maybe genetic susceptibility combined with environmental triggers very early in life, the first two years of life.  But even that doesn’t seem to be the exact cause for every single child.  Some children appear to be born different.  Some children have what’s called late onset autism, where they appear to be developing at or ahead of the average, and then age 1-1/2, age 2, age 2-1/2, 3 sometimes, they will appear to lose all their language and all their communication skills and become autistic.  There are even different children that start at different points in their lives.  And so there isn’t a totally clear understanding of what actually does cause it.  And the problem is that it’s becoming so political and politicized about what does cause it, it’s hard to get a real sense of an objective look at what is causing it.  But I will say this.  Here at this organization, the Autism Treatment Center of America, we’re working with so many different families.  We don’t really need to know what causes autism in order to be able to help these children now.  I think it gets lost on the debate, for instance, on genetics and trying to find a series of genes that causes autism.  But when we start to focus exclusively on that, you don’t help the children that have autism right now here today.  Your housekeeper’s grandson… he’s ten years old, right?

He’s ten, yes.

Well, something that you did say about him that also could shed a little light on autism is it’s often treated as this behavioral issue.  Where these children just behave differently and they need to be trained to behave the proper way.  We see autism as something very different.  First of all as a social communication disorder, but also – and this is why I wanted to highlight what you said about your housekeeper’s grandson—you said he likes to be naked a lot.  Now, actually this is not uncommon at all in different children of various different ages.  People say, “Well, why doesn’t he understand it’s important for him to be dressed, and it’s inappropriate when we have to teach him to keep his clothes on?”  And yes, it absolutely is important to help children learn to keep their clothes on, of course, but there’s a reason why children like this little boy keep taking their clothes off.  In many cases these clothes feel incredibly uncomfortable for them.  They feel scratchy, itchy, they are overpowering in terms of what it feels like on their body.  That might sound funny because it doesn’t feel like that to us, but a lot of these children have what is called a sensory integration disorder, which basically means what they’re seeing—what they’re hearing—what they’re feeling is entirely different than what we’re seeing, hearing, and feeling.  For most of these children, just being in the living room is like being in the center of an airport for most of us.  If you’ve ever spent three or four hours in the airport, you zone out after a while.  You can’t really have a conversation.  You just want to relax.  That’s what these children’s day-to-day existence is like.  And so a lot of what these children are doing might look unusual, but it is actually their attempt to have an environment that is not totally overpowering and totally over-stimulating.  And actually that’s why one of the key principles of the Son-Rise program is to create this home base and sometimes school base specialized work/play environment.   Where these children are in a very simple playroom with one other facilitator, and this playroom will probably be boring by the standards of a typical child. But for children with autism, they’re absolutely essential.  These playrooms have zero distraction with very few pictures on the wall, no music playing, and toys, but no electronic toys in the room.  It’s a room where these children can finally get a chance to breathe.  Where they can start to build a connection with another person.  And it’s also a room where we can call it a “yes” room because they’re never told no.  They’re never told you can’t play with that, you can’t touch that, or you can’t do that.  And that’s not an attempt to spoil a child.  Instead, we’re trying to get in a situation where first we can build up trust and security and build up a child’s sense of feeling safe and loved so that they can then start to step outside their envelope and connect with other people.  In order to do that, you need a very non-distracting simple environment where these children are first allowed to have control and a grasp of their own environment.  And then we can start to help them communicate.

Do you have much memory of your experience?

I can remember things looking really different—distorted faces.  It would look like I was looking at it through the wrong end of a pair of binoculars, or people looking very small and far away, like at the end of a tunnel.  Or sometimes I would look at a wall and it would look like it was bending inward.  And again this is consistent with a lot of the integration and the sensory processing issues that a lot of other children have.  This is the way that I saw it and that’s mostly what I remember of the early days.  I do have a little bit more memory in the very late part of my Son-Rise program when I was more verbal.  I can remember my mom playing with me and laughing—I do remember that really fondly.  And it didn’t feel to me like I was in a special program and something was wrong with me.  It just felt like my mom was playing with me, and loved me, and we were enjoying ourselves.  That’s what we really focus on, making it feel like that for all of the children.  For them it feels like someone is loving them…and enjoying them, and they have the opportunity to play with things that are most exciting and motivating for them.  And we turn that into a way of building more communication interaction.

Is your program very expensive?

If a parent really wants help for their child, they will want to also have the tools to be able to build the program to connect with their child.  So they might come to what we call the Son-Rise Startup Program—the first program that a parent or a professional might take.  And that’s a week-long course where a parent will come to our 100-acre campus in Sheffield, Massachusetts, for an all-inclusive week.  They would have all their meals and free room and board and classes all day.  They would be learning all the key elements of the program.  The parents are the absolute keys to this program, the best resource for the child because no one has the kind of lifelong dedication and love that a parent has.  They would pay roughly $2,200 for that program.  Then there are other, more advanced programs.   They could get phone consultations.  They can have someone come out to their house.  The cost structure really varies for them.  We’re a nonprofit organization, so we have people who donate money every year just to help these parents.  So what happens is you have some parents who are paying $2,200 to come for the week, and you have other parents who are paying a whole lot less because they’re getting financial aid and scholarships that we’re giving them because we’re able to have that with people donating to us to help these parents.  At the end of the day, the parents are able to come regardless of their financial situation.  They can apply for as much aid as they need.

What is the parent’s responsibility in all this?

The parent is going to make the biggest difference in a child’s life.  When and where a parent actually changes the way they are with their child…that tends to have the biggest effect on how the child responds.  One of the areas which I think is the most overlooked in autism treatment (we spend 50% of our time on this in the startup program with the parents) is their own attitudes and comfort levels with their child and their child’s condition. When you first hear it, it’s like a soft skill.  Does that really make an actual difference in how a child is able to communicate and build skills?  Teaching them the specific techniques of the Son-Rise program, like how to join with the child, how to use motivation to teach socialization, how to set up the special play room, all of that is absolutely critical and essential, of course.   But teaching a parent what to do without really teaching them how to do it makes what they’re doing not that effective.  And what we see is what is the biggest and affecting thing is how comfortable the parents are and what their attitudes are, and what their beliefs are about what their child is capable of.  I hear this from parents that at the end of a startup program—(and this is before their child has improved at all—they haven’t even gone home yet to implement it) is that they feel like they see their child totally differently.  What we see, when someone is working with a child with autism who is for any reason uncomfortable, stressed out, or a little frustrated, the child can pick up on a lot of these signals.  The child doesn’t understand that the person has good reason for feeling this way.  All that child knows is this is an increase of stress, and they want to move away from that.  They might do that by “tantruming” more or retreating deeper into their world.  At the same time, when a person is really comfortable, excited, or is feeling really at peace when they’re working with the child, that child becomes more interactive and more interested in that person, which helps with the learning process.

What do you think of these other forms of treatment compared to yours?   Do they work?

One-half is the educational-based treatments, where someone is working with the child, trying to help them learn skills, communicate, do something.   The other kinds of treatments are biological treatments:  medical, dietary intervention, supplementation, etc.  A lot of these more biological treatments work really well in tandem with the Son-Rise program, and I am completely supportive of quite a lot of them.  One of the first things we advocate to the parents who are doing the Son-Rise program is start looking at dietary intervention.  One of the areas is to remove gluten (found in complex proteins, wheat and some other grains), and Casein (found in complex proteins in dairy).  It is widely known that removing these foods will stop some of those biological habits going on in the children’s body, and allow them to connect and adapt more.  Unfortunately, there are still parents who are told by their physicians what their child eats is not going to affect their neurological disorder.  But physicians who are involved with autism really see the research through clinical practices that diet absolutely has a huge effect on how drastic these children are.  Many of these children have immunological, gastrointestinal issues, and deficits going on.  Those treatments can actually accelerate what a child is doing in the Son-Rise treatment program.

The other kinds of programs that are more educational-based, those are really different.  The most popular way of treating autism educationally is through a program called ABA.  Applied Behavior Analysis has been around for quite a while, and is touted as the only program with research backhand. The research was not only done in 1987—and those who tried to replicate it in the ’90s were unable to replicate those results—but also it was done with a very small number, 16 or 17 selected children who had this research done on them.  There is no program out there right now, that with total honesty and truth, can say, “Our program is 100% proven by research on large groups of children.”

What programs are the schools implementing?

I mean absolutely no disrespect by saying this, but if you talk to most school officials and teachers—and you really have them on an off the record—in honest conversation, they will in most cases tell you they have no idea what to do with these children.  Not because they don’t want to help, just because they have no idea how to handle them, and how to help them.

How many Rain Man cases do you get?

We have worked with children and adults who are like Rain Man, but it is incredibly rare.  The term for those people is Autistic Savant.  We more often get children with varying levels of abilities.  When Rain Man came out, there weren’t as many cases of autism as there are today.

Do you have any idea why it is rapidly growing? It’s like an epidemic.

There has been an explosion.  When I was little, it was 1 in 10,000, and now it’s 1 in 150.  There is an increase in diagnosis because there is a little bit of awareness, but that doesn’t count for getting us to 1 in 150.  California has been using the same diagnostic criteria since 1990, and they’ve seen a many-fold increase of autism just in that state.  What’s causing it?  There is a lot of uncertainty and controversy.  The only thing that I would put into that debate is if it’s entirely genetic—you can’t have a genetic epidemic.   The rates should be roughly the same as they were 20-30 years ago.  It could go up by 1 or 2 percent, but nothing like it is now.  My belief then is in order for it to go up at that kind of rate you have to have a contributing environmental trigger.  There could be a host of different ones that affect different children.   Even if it is genetic, you’d have to have interaction with that genetic predisposition with something in the environment.  Otherwise, how do you get an increase of that magnitude?

So often I see in the media messages being given to parents and by professionals, doom and gloom about their children.  I think hope leads to action, and that’s how these children are helped.  Parents have been able to do amazing things with their children if they’re just given a chance.   Unfortunately, there has just been this continual stream of “Your child is going to have this miserable life.”  In the ’90s when autism was on the rise, we were starting to work with more people.  I thought once more if the [success stories] got out, and once people saw what’s possible for these children, this [negative thinking] would change.  And yet I literally keep seeing everyday that nothing’s changed.  I struggle with the fact that in spite of what all of these parents are doing and have done with or for their children, it makes them out to be pathetic creatures who can’t help their children, when it’s the exact opposite of that.  Even when I hear people say things like “You must have been misdiagnosed because you recovered,” or other kids like Kyle, one who was recently in the news, people said the same thing about him.  Everybody doesn’t have to do the Son-Rise program, but let’s not discount what these parents are doing.  Can we at least give those parents some respect and credit for what they did?   And give Kyle some respect and credit for the strides that he’s made without having to keep them down in order to make a point.

Is there only one autism treatment center for your program?

There is only one Autism Treatment Center of America.  However, there are parents running these small-scale programs all over the US and in other countries.  We do a program two times a year, one in England, where we fly our team of teachers out to the UK to run exactly the same program that we run here. I also do lecture tours in the UK and in the US, whenever we can get the funding for it.  Those are usually free lecture tours.  We’re trying not to charge the parents.  In America we actually had a wealthy Son-Rise set of parents who were excited about their own child’s progress.   They funded 100 low-income families to come for free to a startup program that we ran in New York City.  So we got off of our campus to reach out to other parents and other families, but in most cases, parents and families are coming here and then they’re getting ongoing help from a distance that they continue to run their programs.

To learn more about the Autism Treatment Center of America, visit their website: www.autismtreatmentcenter.org.  They also offer a free 30-minute consultation call to ask questions about how to apply the principles to your child.  Don’t believe everything you hear in the news.  Children are recovering from Autism Spectrum Disorder.

Transcribed by Lisa A. Trimarchi

Plastic Surgeon, Dr. Alexander Rivkin, M.D. – Expanding the Use of Botox®

Plastic Surgeon, Dr. Alexander Rivkin, M.D. – Expanding the Use of Botox ®

I always thought my first visit to a plastic surgeon would include leaflets of models whose noses I wanted, or pictures of celebrities with the perfect profile. After all, I do live in Los Angeles, aka tinsel town, aka Hollywood fabulous—the land where everybody is a size 2, has a perfect nose, full lips, no character lines, and a 6-pack.

I guess I could have scheduled a lipo-suction appointment, or a breast augmentation procedure, or maybe even a butt lift.  But instead I found myself visiting probably the only plastic surgeon on the west side with a moral conscience. I guess I am not being fair. Cosmetic surgery is a valid profession. It’s about as warm as a corporate takeover. But nonetheless, a very necessary evil at times. My head spins when I hear about associates getting monthly botox injections, ribs removed, skin bleached or lasered. And I look in the mirror only to realize that I could easily fall into the same trap. Because I was blessed with fairly good genes, I am spared the repeated trips to these “clinics.” But to hear these surgeons speak, everybody will reach the age when he/she will need a bit of poison injected in his/her face. And apparently, these future clients are getting younger every day.

Dr. Alexander Rivkin is a Yale-trained facial cosmetic surgeon. He pioneered a groundbreaking non-surgical nose job procedure, and co-developed the non-surgical chin implant and non-surgical eyelid lift procedures. He has recently expanded the use of Botox® to treat his patients who are suffering from TMJ (temporomandibular joint disorder) and habitual teeth grinding.

The West Side Medical Spa is tucked away on Gayley Avenue near UCLA.   It is unassuming on the outside, but wow, does it ever pack a punch on the inside. Dr. Rivkin and his non-invasive surgical cosmetic procedures have opened the floodgates to those everywhere who are afraid of going under the knife.  And now, poor Jim with his terminally crooked nose can exercise his right to alter his looks (for the better) without a single incision.

How does a surgeon decide not to ever cut again?  This Yale-trained facial cosmetic surgeon and UCLA faculty member decided to focus his practice exclusively on providing his patients with the latest in non-invasive, non-ablative cosmetic treatments. He understands that no one wants to “go under the knife.” He has dedicated his career to developing alternatives by creating a solution for his patients to rid them of their fears associated with cosmetic surgery.

I wanted to concentrate on non-surgical cosmetic procedures.  I felt there was so much that was possible without doing surgery, and I could be creative in this field and “make up stuff.”  I really couldn’t be creative in a more traditional practice.  I have focused my efforts on new ways of accomplishing things that my patients want without having to put them through the ordeal of surgery.

I started out by using the things that were available.  It’s exciting now because there are new injectibles and new lasers that are coming out.  I believe that this is the future. So it’s very interesting to be on that wave and utilize these new things that are coming out.  The start of my whole thinking was with the nose.  I came up with a procedure that can straighten the nose without surgery.  Afterwards, I’ve been listening to my patients and trying to go with some of the problems they would ask me about.

At one point a patient walked in and she was tense.  She wore the tension around her jaw.  And I was looking at her and noticed her jaw was square.   I had read where these doctors in Asia had been injecting botox into the muscles of the jaws for girls who wanted to soften their jaw line cosmetically–just to look different.  So I asked her if she had had a square jaw for a while, and she said ever since she had been grinding her teeth, her jaw had become more muscular and square.  All night and during the day she would grind her teeth. Her dentist had given her devices to wear at night. But she would literally spit them out unconsciously in her sleep, or grind them up and spit out the pieces. This isn’t the first time I had heard of this. These people literally grind their teeth every night, working out these muscles, which eventually become huge and rock hard. So I thought to myself, “it’s only a muscle.”   So I started putting botox into it. There were a bunch of little ones.  She returned to me and reported that she stopped grinding.  She looked more calm and felt more calm.  “This is the best thing since sliced bread.”  So I wrote to the company, and I said, “I am sure that this is something that had been tried.”  And they confirmed it.  It had occurred to other people as well. But it made sense.

You start grinding and your muscles just get stronger and stronger with each grinding episode. After a certain point, there’s nothing you can do to stop it because your muscles get too strong, and you’re doing it completely unconsciously. The more you do it, your teeth get worn down, but then when you’re aware of it, it makes the grinder more tense that they cannot stop grinding their teeth. But once you put the botox in, the muscle has the strength to chew and function properly, but it doesn’t have the strength to grind. Then it just stops.

For a layperson like me, I don’t really know what botox is. I have seen commercials and I even know of people who get botox injections, but what is it exactly? And is it harmful?

A couple hundred years ago, a German guy figured out why people were dying from bad sausages. It was a [bacterium] that they eventually named botulism, which means sausage person in German. As time went on, they figured out that it was poison that came out of the bacteria that is very powerful and its main effect was to paralyze muscles. People died from bad sausages because the poison paralyzed their breathing muscles and they couldn’t breathe. In about the 1970s, this one ophthalmologist thought about all the diseases where one muscle is too active, would spasm, or is too strong, and realized there was nothing to make the muscle weak, except for botulism, which he took and made safe for injection. They were tiny quantities that will stay in the muscle it’s injected in. It worked. So it should also work for cosmetic purposes. That is how botox came to be. The origin is this poison, but it’s gone through all these layers of change that it becomes a harmless protein that is injected. And through the injection, it doesn’t go through the rest of the body, nor does it have the side effects. Botox makes muscles weak. And the more you inject, the weaker that muscle gets. It’s completely dose dependent. There are no side effects. It’s not bad for you.   It doesn’t go into your system. It’s perfect.

When people get botox, their face is paralyzed as a result of the practitioner administering the botox. They are probably injecting too much. But you can be creative with botox. You can put a little bit in for a small effect, or you can put in a lot for a bigger effect. You can really be very precise in terms of creating the kind of effect you want. It’s a very nice drug in that way.

So there are no long-term ill effects?

There are kids that have torticollis (when one side of the neck is active and they’re always bent over). We put botox in their neck and it straightens them up immediately. It’s amazing. We use about 10 times more botox for that than we would use cosmetically. They used that for years.  Once you inject it, the muscle sucks it up immediately. It doesn’t go outside of it. But as you use it, you can forget to make certain expressions. So you have to retrain your body so that when you’re angry or concerned, you no longer make that expression. That habit of gesturing your face is gone.

For the TMJ, how many people are actually doing this procedure now, or are you the main one?

I am the main one.  When I talk to dentists about it, they’ve never heard of it. It’s very new.

I was looking on your website and I noticed that you also offer nose jobs, chin implants, microdermabrasion, etc. I think it’s great because it is non-invasive. There’s no chance of infection. I also read that sometimes in surgery the implants shift. You’re saying that with the botox procedure it doesn’t shift?   Can you explain to me how, for instance, a chin implant would be done?   What is a standard thing you would do?

Surgically, to extend your chin, you have to get an operation. There is an incision underneath. You open up the skin, you slide in the implant, you close up the skin. You’re limited in terms of what the implant looks like.   Surgically, there’s a limitation in terms of what the shape of the chin is going to look like. You’re limited by the implant that you have, and you’re also limited when you do it, because you can’t adjust on the fly. You have to surmise, “O. K., we will use implant #2.”  Once it’s open, you can’t see aesthetically what it’s going to look like. You just have to hope for the best.   I do injections. I take a filler substance called Radiesse(TM). It lasts for about a year and a half. I put it in the deeper layers of the skin—that’s where it belongs.  When you put it in, you can mold it like clay. The substance is calcium based.  It’s kind of like a lattice, or a scaffolding, where the body’s cells grow into it and it becomes like the skin.  It’s soft, and you can’t tell the difference.  When it first goes in, you can move it around, mold it.  I look at the person in the chair and I can tell which direction I want to go—square it off, make it delicate, pointy, out, down, etc.  You can make it be more appropriate to the individual who’s in front of you.  Therefore, you can make it more precise, and fine tune it.

It lasts for a year and a half, meaning they have to come back for a repeat procedure?

In about six months, there are going to be fillers that last for about ten years. I am limited until that happens.

Why did you decide to go non-invasive?

The freedom to be creative is really important to me.  You can’t do that in surgery.   You have to do the procedure the way it is.  You can’t make things up.  A lot of people are getting needless surgery.  I am the kind of surgeon that would counsel people away from surgery, and into non-invasive techniques.  But I knew that being a part-time surgeon is no good.  You have to stay on top of your game and do it all the time.  I decided to go with what my heart was really into, which is this kind of stuff.  I felt like this is where the future of Aesthetics is going to be.

Have you ever had a situation where someone came in to see you and it was just hopeless?

Oh yeah, and in those cases I just refer them to my colleagues.  But most of the time, there is something that can be done.

It seems like the botox revolution is almost overkill.  They make fun of it on TV shows like “Will and Grace,” and for someone who isn’t really into the red carpet, or that type of lifestyle, most people, unless they’re constantly being photographed, or are in the media, usually don’t go for botox, do they? Or am I wrong?

You’re wrong.  A woman who’s over 30 in Los Angeles, chances are she has had botox in her face—across the board.  No matter what she does, regardless of her social or economic standing, it’s very prevalent because it’s such an easy thing to undergo, and the results are fairly dramatic.

Do you think that it has spilled outside of the West and East Coasts?

Middle America and East Coast not as much, but it’s rampant in LA.  The nice thing about it is you can’t tell.  A successful procedure is where you can get done what you want where there is no huge bruising or side effects, and nobody can tell.  You can’t tell when somebody’s had botox.

You can use botox to prevent wrinkles from happening. Some women in their 20s come in because they see their mom, and they know that they are going to develop wrinkles in the same spot, and they know that the more they move a certain way, the more it’s going to get etched in. So you put botox in there, you don’t move as much, and you don’t make the wrinkle.

Where do you see your practice in five years?

I ‘d like to create an institute.  I am in the process of trying to do so now, and start training people. This is what people want, and should get.  It’s simple, precise and powerful. It really takes some aesthetic awareness to do. You can have a technically good surgeon with no aesthetic understanding.   You wind up having people walking around Rodeo Drive looking pretty weird—hollow-eyed women, surgery gone wrong. It happens all the time. Bad nose jobs, etc. Sometimes I get women who want big lips. I tell them it’s not appropriate. So many women over 40 with their entire upper lip looking like a duck. I’m not going to participate in that. I try to talk to them and offer other suggestions that might be more effective.

Those people that get the cosmetic improvements like nose jobs and chin implants, are they O. K. with coming back?  How do you know when it’s time to redo?

Botox can last three months or six months. It depends on genetics, etc. A lot of physicians make a three-month appointment no matter what. I believe in happy patients. This is the future. My ambition is to change the way people think about plastic surgery. I want those people who want aesthetic changes to be better informed and awake, not looking for the extreme makeover, and understanding that there is a way to get what they want without going under the knife.

For more information, visit Dr. Rivkin’s website atwww.westsidemedicalspa.com

Interview by Kaylene Peoples

Kaylene Peoples, Founder and Editor in Chief – Up Close and Personal Reflections of Agenda Magazine

Agenda Magazine July 2009 Cover, Photographer Arun Nevader, Cover Model Kaylene Peoples

It’s been five years since the start ofAgenda Magazine, www.agendamag.com. That very first issue back in summer 2004 featured actress Bai Ling on the cover as well as a list of prestigious fashion professionals: J. Alexander (ANTM), Coco Kliks (designer), Sue Wong, and more. We were still feeling our way around this online publishing world. Being the first fashion webzine to stream video, that trend caught on like wildfire. And as you can see, it’s everywhere now. We’ve featured now famous designers (Rami Kashou) who at the time were just starting their careers, and we’ve seen some (Anand Jon) rise to the top then fall from grace.

Agenda Magazine‘s list of distinguished interviewees include handbag, fashion, and jewelry designers, actors, actresses, musicians, kitchen designers, chefs, wedding gown designers, doctors, autism and breast cancer survivors, entertainment, fitness, dance companies, beauty and fashion professionals. And many contributors have come and gone, but their legacy will always live on in Agenda. Those who’ve contributed regularly in the past are as follows: Devino Tricoche (photographer), Natalie Martin (political writer), Patricia Lee (writer), Kevin Foster (writer), Ali Saam (spokesperson) and Sherman Hill (columnist). Each has gone on to successfully pursue other avenues.

What was my highest high?

I ask everyone I interview that very same question. And honestly, I can’t even answer that question because there have been so many highs with thismagazine. I could say the highest high was getting this issue together, or I could say the same thing about our Spring 2005 issue. Every issue has been a high; and once that issue is done, it’s on to the next. I think the highs are the fact that our readers love us and they’re loyal.

Highlights

Hurricane Katrina hit, and as we know, several people were devastated by this natural disaster. Photojournalist (Leslie Lormann) was invited to go on the Oprah show because of her photo-journalistic spread that we ran in the magazine. And we’re very proud of her for that. She put herself out on the limb to contribute to such a horrifying situation. She put her life in danger to document what was actually going on over there.

Raun Kaufman, an autism spectrum survivor, was interviewed back in Spring 2007. He continues to help children with autism, cerebral palsy, and Down’s syndrome recover and lead normal lives. We did a pod cast, and a lot of people started researching alternative methods of recovery for their affected children.

Pooja Batra (Bollywood Star), Apollonia Kotera, Keith Munyan, Sheryl Lee Ralph (HIV awareness), non-invasive plastic surgeons, celebrity stylists offering tips to the average woman, eco-friendly designers, and everyday heroes that we just don’t hear about have all graced our pages.

Lowest Low

The lowest low has been time. We get so many requests to interview, run editorials, or feature things in the magazine, and there’s just not enough time. There weren’t enough issues to actually accommodate all those who have been asking. Agenda Magazine has been quarterly for five years. That means only four issues a year. Those issues were jam-packed. But unlike a monthly or bi-monthly, we had to really select carefully what actually went into each issue. That was something that I wanted to change, I wanted to rectify this year. We’re going to be putting out monthly issues, and we will be trying our best to focus more on things that we haven’t been able to feature in the past.

Green fashion has been a very big thing for the magazine. We are trying to stay proactive. And we’re trying to do the right thing in this crazy world that we’re in where our natural resources are being depleted and our economy is in a mess. By supporting the green movement, we feel that maybe our readers will start buying eco-friendly fashion, eco-friendly cars, and maybe the rest of the world will follow suit.

Agenda Magazine has a spokesmodel. How did I come up with that choice?

Lindy Flowers is our spokesmodel who came onboard about a year ago. She’s a mother of two and is still modeling after ten years. I felt she really represented the real world as opposed to someone who is just starting to model. Lindycontinues to model and is working almost daily. She just recently did a Volkswagen campaign in Europe. I think she represents what modeling should be. You shouldn’t have to stop modeling when you turn 24. They say if you’re 12-15, you’re just probably the right age to start modeling. If you’re 18 starting, you just might be over the hill; and by the time you’re 24, your career is over. Well, I don’t know if I agree with that. I’d like to be one to help change that, and I think Lindy is the perfect representation of what modeling should be. Because, you know what? We’re living longer. We’re not dying off at 55 or 60 anymore. This world is getting older. I believe there are those who want to see more mature models. Fashion comes in all shapes and ages.

Where Do I See Agenda Magazine in five years?

I see Agenda Magazine on the shelf in five years. I see it being a voice of fashion and human interest in five years. I don’t see it being gone in five years. I definitely see the magazine thriving. And I feel that it will continue to grow.

One thing that was born out of the magazine is our non-profit Agendafoundation.org. We started the filing process over three, years ago and now we are a 501(c) 3. It is an accelerated film school for foster youth. We are trying to bring some consciousness to this particular group of children.

How did the magazine come to be?

You know it’s funny, because the magazine came to be based upon my own desires, really. I’m an entertainer, jazz singer/flautist, I used to model, and I’m a filmmaker. That’s where the streaming media came in—that’s where the fashion came in, and one of our most recent additions, the Indie Hotspot, which caters to independent musicians and film—and that’s where that section came in. I’ve been an entertainer for a long time, and it has been a struggle to make it in this industry. And I know that a lot of people also struggle. If I did, I know they did. The answers are not always so easy when you’re an entertainer—and an independent one at that when you don’t have a label. And there’s really only a small percent that actually get signed to a record label. It’s so small that it’s laughable. There are more artists out there than you know. With the advent of Myspace, and now Facebook and Twitter, and some of these other online outlets, a lot of that talent is now finally being heard. But I thought that it would be very proactive if we actually did something, too, to help the cause of the independent entertainer, singer, actor, filmmaker. That’s why the Indie Hotspot was born, as a result creating another demographic. We ended up bringing in the 18-30-something male readership by introducing that section.

What advice would I give to someone trying to start his/her own online magazine?

Content is the biggest thing that will keep your magazine going. We’ve never had a problem with content here at Agenda Magazine.There’s plenty of it. The secret for me was I just wrote about what I loved, or I let our writers write about what they loved. As a result, the magazine has thrived. Instead of chasing theaudience, I let the audience chase us. And that’s probably the best advice I could give to someone who wants to start his/her own online magazine. Find the things that you’re interested in. Find the topics that you love and that you’re passionate about and write about those because those will never go away, and there’s always something to write about. But if you’re chasing an idea that you’re not 100% sold on or even sure about, you’re sure to fail. It’s better to just go with what you feel and what you know and be eager and curious to learn more. So here’s to the next five years!

Kaylene Peoples, Agenda Magazine’s Founder and Editor in Chief

To Learn more about Kaylene, visit:www.myspace.com/kaylenepeoples. Visit Agenda atwww.myspace.com/agendamagazine andwww.twitter.com/agendamag. To give a donation to Agenda Foundation, visit www.agendafoundation.org.

What would you do if your man came home in a dress? One Man’s Journey to Cross-Dressing

“There are few things that I enjoy more than rummaging through my well-stocked lingerie drawer for just the right combination of delicate under things.”—Jennifer Merrill

I was playing on Music Myspace and stumbled upon a page with a man dressed like a woman. I thought this person wore the outfit very well. I invited him to be my friend and told him I thought he did his dress justice. I read his profile and was shocked to learn that he was not only heterosexual, but happily married, too. Naturally, I had to learn more. He discussed it with his wife and agreed to do this interview.

“Inside every delicate man, there may just be a hot chick just waiting to make her appearance!” Jennifer Merrill

Jen’s a Boy

When did you realize you liked to dress like a woman? What was it that sparked the interest?

On a personal level, I’ve known that I was transgendered since I was extremely young, although it took me decades to begin to understand it, and I’m still not sure that any of us really understand it completely, or know precisely where those of us who feel transgendered fit on the transgendered spectrum. From closet cross-dressers to totally feminized and passable transsexuals, from what I’ve seen over the years, our attitudes about our “gender gift” and our needs to become women, more or less, seem to evolve—to ebb and to flow—no matter where we identify ourselves at the time along the transgendered rainbow.

My earliest memories are of trying to figure out why I felt like a girl even though I knew I was a boy, at least physically, back when I was only three or four years old. Coming from an extremely sheltered, conservative home in a working class suburban area of Los Angeles, I really thought that I was the only person in the world experiencing all of the overwhelming experiences and confusion that I now know this situation invariably generates. After being caught dressed in my mom’s clothes early on (a very fashionable little black cocktail dress, color coordinated lingerie, and matching stiletto pumps—at least I had good fashion sense even then! LOL!), probably around the age of 7, I learned to be incredibly careful to avoid being caught again and that cross-dressing was certainly not a behavior that any of my friends or family would tolerate.  There wasn’t a night I can remember as a child when I didn’t fall asleep praying that I would wake up the next morning as a girl.

At some point in elementary school, I remember hearing about Christine Jorgensen and her sex change operation—of course, I had already been raiding my mother’s clothes for years at that point—but I was sure that I would be “butt ugly” as a girl, and the thought of actually being able to become a woman when I grew up seemed beyond my wildest dreams (not that that ever stopped me from dreaming, of course!).

I also couldn’t figure out the difference between sex and gender back then—how could I be female but feel attracted to girls sexually at the same time? I laugh now at my naïveté at not understanding what I think Kate Bornstein explained as “Sex is what’s between your legs . . . gender is what’s between your ears,” but it still pains me that I was so uninformed while I was growing up. I look with awe and tremendous jealousy at teenagers dealing with transgendered (“TG”) issues today. While the issues are no less challenging and the fears regarding loss of family and friends are no less real today, at least younger TGs have resources and support networks available to them in this day and age through the internet, for which I would have given my—well, some portion of my anatomy . . .

What is it about being a woman that appeals to you?

It’s not really an appeal or a choice . . . it really feels very natural to me. When I become a woman and go out shopping or dining or clubbing with friends, it feels like the most natural thing in the world.

Do you like dressing like a woman more than a man, and if so, why?

I have to laugh a little bit as I respond. As a woman, I can express my flair for fashion and my sensuality in a way that I could never do as a man. My feelings are probably no different than most of your genetic female readers, I suspect, when it comes to “dressing up.” I think that most women love the experience of adorning themselves in ways that make them feel beautiful and wearing clothing that is fashionable, flattering and feels sexy. I feel the same way and, once I came to terms with it, decided that it really wasn’t something that I needed to apologize for. I also must confess that I’m extraordinarily vain, and I love to show off my legs in skirts and heels. That’s very tough to do as a man!

How does dressing like a woman make you feel?

When I dress like a woman, I simply feel like me. I know that’s difficult for individuals who haven’t experienced gender dysphoria to understand, but the truth is that dressing as a man has always felt somewhat incongruous to me. When I’m out and about as a woman, people who know me in both genders tell me that I have an exceptionally well integrated personality for someone who drifts back and forth across the great gender barrier. But I’m always me, no matter what I’m wearing.

I found you on Myspace. Do you have another Myspace with your profile as a male?

No. I actually first went on Myspace at the suggestion of a friend (a genetic female, what we refer to in the TG community as a GG or Genetic Girl), who thought I might enjoy it and who thought that I might serve as a role model of sorts for younger TGs who were just beginning to struggle with figuring out who they really are.

For many years, I’ve tried my best within the time I have available to share my experiences with other transgendered individuals and other individuals who are interested in us.  For example, over the years I’ve attended many conferences, and I’ve spoken about my experiences as a transgendered individual in front of college classes and groups.  I also discovered the internet a few years ago, and that has opened new vistas for my efforts to increase understanding and awareness of TG issues.  When my friend suggested I check out Myspace, I found this amazing outlet for helping people from all over the world to better understand what it means to be transgendered!

“I have been totally monogamous since my wife and I first got together, and I have tried to make certain that nothing I do as a woman puts our relationship in jeopardy.”

Do you and your spouse go out together in public with you in drag?

People frequently ask me whether my wife ever accompanies me out for a girls’ night out or for shopping.  Sadly, the answer is no.  When I was first venturing out en femme , she accompanied me, but the experience was quite disturbing for her.  It was challenging enough for her to see me dressed as a woman and to realize how comfortable and natural I seemed as a female.  The more difficult part for her came when she saw the way men (and even other women!) reacted to me wearing a cocktail dress and heels.  While having men buy me drinks and asking me to dance have become welcome elements of my nightclub adventures over the years, my wife simply could not handle the amount of attention I received.  She also was disturbed by the fact that other women treated her husband as “one of the girls,” even in the ladies room touching up our lipstick, and when other attractive (presumably bisexual or lesbian) women actually hit on me in front of her, she decided she could not participate in my outings again.

Obviously, this was a terribly traumatic experience for both of us, but we were able to work through it as we have so many other issues in our relationship, based on mutual respect, trust, and understanding. I have been totally monogamous since my wife and I first got together, and I have tried to make certain that nothing I do as a woman puts our relationship in jeopardy.

Fortunately, I am able to go out as a woman fairly regularly without imposing on my time with my family or my career. However, by prioritizing family, this means that I rarely go out on weekends, that I have difficulty meeting up with friends from the TG community in person on a regular basis, and that I frequently miss out on visits from friends visiting L.A. from out of town.  But I have had the good fortune of going out in public as a woman now for over 20 years, basically going wherever I like whenever I like without ever having been hassled or harassed for being transgendered. I have dozens of wonderful friends in the TG and broader community, and I still have a good time going out dining and clubbing fairly regularly with friends.  I am truly blessed!

What percentage of time do you spend dressing like a woman and what percentage of time as a man? Which do you prefer?

I spend a much larger percentage of my time dressed as a man than as a woman, although I obviously enjoy dressing as a woman immeasurably more. But as all of us girls know, it takes a lot of time to look fabulous! LOL! And, for better or for worse, it takes me longer than most women to get all dolled up. So, if I’m just going to “shlump” around in jeans and a flannel shirt, I tend to do it as a guy.

When you look in the mirror as yourself (male), do you like what you see? Is there a community, club, or group of friends that support your cross-dressing? If so, tell me a little about it.

I have always known that I was a good person, and I have always been able to look myself in the mirror and to like the person looking back at me. Having said that, I have to confess that it’s a lot more fun for me when the person looking back in the mirror at me is touching up her mascara and her lipstick and brushing out her hair . . . .

I’ve always been very lucky to know a lot of other cross-dressers and to have had a large community of friends who are supportive of my cross-dressing. Even my totally “straight” friends have complimented me on the way I look and carry myself when they meet me as a woman.

When I first went out in public, I got involved in a group called Tri-Ess (the Society for the Secret Self), which is the best organization I’m familiar with for helping heterosexual cross-dressers to emerge from the closet. Their website is at www.tri-ess.org . For many years now, I’ve also been affiliated with a group called the Vanity Club. The Vanity Club website is at www.vanityclub.com . It’s a fun group, and the members are some of the most accomplished, brilliant and friendly individuals I’ve ever met. Whenever one of them is passing through Los Angeles, I do my very best to meet her.

What was your highest high and lowest low as a woman?

My highest high as a woman undoubtedly was the first time I went out in public as a female more years ago than I care to admit. What shocked the hell out of me was that once I actually put on makeup and went out in public dressed as a female, I seemed to be totally accepted as a woman wherever I went. More than accepted! I was constantly being approached by guys wanting to date me. Club owners with drag shows were asking me to go to work as a professional female impersonator. I modeled on the runway for designer friends, and I even had women approaching me in boutiques or in restaurants wanting to know where I got my manicure, where I got my hair styled, or where I had bought the outfit that I was wearing.

My first time out fully dressed as a woman, I went to the famous Queen Mary Show Lounge here in Los Angeles, which sadly closed a few years ago—an evening at the Queen Mary was the first outing for many TG’s of my generation—and found myself receiving incredible compliments even from the performers, which was an amazing boost for my ego that I will always remember.  Don’t forget that this was many, many years ago . . . . In those days, I wore big hair, short skirts and stiletto heels, and I felt fabulous and flawless!  In fact, I felt downright fierce!  LOL!

I was adopted by a couple of “drag mothers” who were both trained cosmetologists and professional female impersonators, and who were thrilled at the opportunity to turn a cute “straight” boy into a fabulous queen. I learned all of their tricks to the best of my ability. In some respects, that made my situation even more challenging. It was very tempting to consider transitioning and to undergo surgical procedures to live full-time as a woman, but I knew that transitioning would end my marriage, and that I’d be walking away from my wife, children and family, and probably my friends and career, as well. For those transgendered individuals who choose to follow this path, they have my profound respect for their courage and their strength . . . and a bit of envy, as well.

Over the years, like many of my TG sisters, I found that the most important thing for me was to find a balance between my femme and male lives.  In essence, the trick has been to find ways to integrate my femininity with the other aspects of my life, which in essence helps me to maintain that initial high point. While I don’t always succeed as well as I’d like, that approach has resulted in a balancing process that has worked for me.  If I had had a different family or career path, I may have found a very different balance from the one that I’ve chosen. As my life continues to unfold, I can’t say that I won’t seek a different balance from the one that I currently enjoy.

As I’ve aged, I’ve found that I’ve needed to regularly readjust my own self-image from the party girl who was regularly mistaken for a babe several years younger than I was at the time to the more mature woman that I present to the world today (who still enjoys partying from time to time, by the way!) . . . .  I love to shop, and I try whenever I can to get out, always dressed as a woman, and always well received by other shoppers and particularly by salesgirls who seem delighted to help me with my shopping and my acquisitions.  I maintain a full wardrobe, and find it challenging to keep it from bursting out of the closet!  LOL!  I’m still told that I could easily transition if I ever desired (recognizing that no transsexual transition is ever really easy or inexpensive on a variety of levels), which I find incredibly flattering and tempting on occasion, but this remains beyond the realm of my personal goals at this time

“I grabbed from my wife’s and other family members’ Goodwill piles. I was certain that I would make an outrageously hideous looking woman, and that at 5’11”, I could never dream of actually going out in public as a woman without becoming an absolute laughingstock.”

What was your highest high and lowest low as a straight male?

Aside from my gender issues, I live a very conventional life with very conventional interests and relationships. My highest high in this regard would have to revolve around our wedding and the births of our kids; hard to choose among those, I have to admit.

The lowest low? I would have to say that it was when I was a teenager and young adult trying to figure this transgendered experience out with no real guidance, literature or role models to talk to about it or to try to process it. You can’t imagine all of the library card catalogues and reader’s digests to periodical literature that I rifled through as a teenager and in my early 20s looking in vain for articles or information about transgendered issues (a phrase that I don’t even think existed back then) that would make sense and that would apply to me.  Somehow, I didn’t feel like a pervert. I just felt like a normal person with some internal wiring that somehow got confused somewhere along the way. But the only articles I ever found regarding cross-dressing either focused on flamboyant drag queens and gorgeous professional female impersonators, sensational transsexuals or closet queens masturbating while wearing panties over their heads (at least figuratively). None of them seemed to fit my own self-image.

In the meantime, during this period of youthful isolation, I had come to the conclusion that if I were tough enough and stoic enough, I could eventually make all of these confusing thoughts and feelings go away. Under any circumstances, at worst, I figured that I would eventually outgrow them. I was lucky to be a good student and athlete, and I always seemed to attract pretty girls. They invariably seemed to like the fact that not only was I a tough guy from a fairly tough neighborhood, and probably seemed a little dangerous, but I also had an intelligent, artistic, and sensitive side, as well, that seemed to balance the masculine machismo. This of course did nothing to eliminate or even alleviate my gender issues, but it was great for my ego. So in high school, I was a student body officer, a football jock, and an honor student with a girlfriend who was a cheerleader and homecoming queen.  And I coveted her wardrobe!  LOL!

After college, I went on to become a young military officer with a wife (not the cheerleader), whom I adored and continue to love very much. Within a few years, I was out of the service, we had kids, I made it through grad school, and I was working on a very successful professional career. But through it all, I was still periodically struggling with the demons that told me there was something terribly wrong with me.  While I cross-dressed in hiding, from time to time wearing stuff that I grabbed from my wife’s and other family members’ Goodwill piles, I was certain that I would make an outrageously hideous looking woman, and that at 5’11”, I could never dream of actually going out in public as a woman without becoming an absolute laughingstock.

I guess I view that period in my life as being trapped in an involuntary closet. And maybe that’s why I have a very negative feeling about cross-dressers purging their possessions (this almost exclusively applies to male cross-dressers . . . there is very little stigma attached to women who choose to dress in masculine attire) or remaining in the closet. It’s hard for me to imagine a transgendered person choosing to remain in the closet without it being imposed by external forces, whether the decision to refrain from transgendered behavior appears to be voluntary or not. I’m afraid that it really amounts to a return to the closet and furtive fantasies for the individual in question, and suggests that the individual has given up on hopes of our transgendered natures becoming more socially acceptable at least at some point in our lifetimes.

Within a few years, I began to realize that these emotions and needs were never going to subside, and that if I didn’t deal with them, they had the potential to destroy me. Still naively thinking that I was virtually alone in dealing with these issues, I tried to explain them to my wife in about as clumsy a fashion as I can imagine in retrospect. She, of course, was shocked to learn several years into our marriage about her macho jock husband’s fondness for women’s clothes and for his feelings of femininity. I would have to say that that moment of revelation was probably the lowest low of my life.

My wife knew that I had always had a good eye for accessorizing her outfits and that I had very good taste in helping her to find clothes that flattered her (believe me, she’s gorgeous . . . it wasn’t very difficult), but she had no clue that I might actually want to wear dresses and heels myself. She was shocked, horrified, felt betrayed, lied to, etc.  I won’t bore you with the details, but I think you can imagine.

Fortunately, we love one another, and found a wonderful therapist/marriage counselor (with no prior TG patient experience) who helped us over the course of a couple of years to come up with a series of compromises that continue to work for us many years later, although they remain compromises . . . so by definition neither of us is completely happy with them. And my wife’s sense of betrayal will probably never disappear completely, no matter how much I try to help her rationalize our situation based on my own ignorance of what it meant to be transgendered at the time we got married and for many years after that . . . .

Do people think you are gay, and if so, how do you handle that?

Actually, when I’m dressed as a guy, I don’t think I’ve ever had anybody tell me that they thought I was gay, which is kind of interesting, I think. Apparently, I “pass” very well as a masculine male impersonator. I only say that half-facetiously. Even though, as an artist and something of a cultural subversive, I have many close friends who are gays and lesbians, I think it’s interesting that, to the best of my knowledge, none of them has ever suggested that they perceive me as being gay—certainly not to me directly. On the other hand, when I’m dressed as a woman, people just seem to assume I’m a woman and accept me and refer to me as a woman and with feminine pronouns, unless I’m in a club or other venue that caters to TG individuals, many of which are gay nightclubs with drag shows. When I’m in a club dressed as a woman, I never accept a drink from somebody who doesn’t know that I’m a biological male. Actually, that can be quite amusing at times.

Dealing with this whole dichotomy between sex and gender, in this context, you might wonder about the name I use on Myspace, “Jen’s a Boy,” particularly since I have always felt female mentally and emotionally.  When I first went on Myspace, I found that I was regularly hearing from biological males who would become extremely distressed or angry when they discovered that I was not a biological female.  I decided that the simplest solution was to simply put my biology squarely in their faces (well, at least figuratively!  LOL!).   I also began posting “before and after” photos of me as both a male and as a female around this same time for the same reason.  A long-time friend and neighbor of mine at the time, Marlayna Lacie, then asked if we could do a photo spread with some of my transformation pix in Transformation magazine.  I was amazed when the article appeared, and I continue to receive incredibly positive feedback on it.

I also began to add captions to some of my photos occasionally just to add a bit of levity to what sometimes seems like a community that takes itself too seriously.  I think that it is truly important for us to have fun with all of this, and that we should be able to laugh at ourselves on occasion.  While I am always mindful of our lack of certain fundamental legal and civil rights and the dangers that we all experience simply by choosing to live out our transgendered reality in public, I have found that these photographs and captions also feed into some of my artistic inclinations, and I just have a good time with them when I have the chance.  Occasionally, I even include an artistic allusion in the captions as with the caption on one of my photos that plays on the well known artist Rene Magritte’s interest in irony and the interplay between language and imagery in his paintings and occasional captions.

Will you always cross-dress or will you “retire” one day?

For better or for worse, this is who I am. I could no more easily retire from dressing as a woman, than I could retire from being right-handed or from being an artist. Over the years, I developed an attitude relating to my feelings about cross-dressing and transgendered issues generally, which I can summarize as “You can run, but you can’t hide. . . .” I guess a transgendered individual can choose not to dress like his or her true gender if they decide to exercise their will power, but I don’t think any of us should be naive enough to think that we can ever choose to stop being transgendered.

Interviewed by Kaylene Peoples

Louis Verdad’s Spring 2010 Collection – Hit or Miss?

LA-based designer Louis Verdad has always been highly favored in the media. He’s known for his feminine, figure flattering designs. His fashions have graced the covers of several fashion magazines and have been the focus of fashion editorials both in South America and the United States. He has designed exclusively for countless celebrities, and his work is highly praised by top fashion stylists (Arianne Phillips, et. al.) and editors (Anna Wintour, et. al.).

In his Spring 2010 collection, I got a sense that Louis Verdad was trying something different this time. His collection consisted of only three colors: crème, navy, and gold. It was a definite nautical theme with a throwback to the 80s. His use of billowing sleeves against form-fitted A-line gowns was different creating a unique contrast. I’m not sure how well it worked for me. A lot of designers this season followed the one-sleeve trend, and so did Louis Verdad in a few of hispieces. What was consistent with some of his past collections were the following: train-enhanced evening gowns, figure-giving fabrics (jersey) and figure-hugging cuts, and the presence of nautical.

Louis Verdad always had an old Hollywood feel to his past collections. That was one of the things I probably liked most about his designs. By his own admission, he is forever inspired by the opulence of fashionable, societal women of his homeland. And usually this is his constant running theme, with both enchanting and very obvious intentions on his runway. But sadly, this particular season, Verdad missed his mark. There was an obvious well-intended theme with a mostly all African-American lineup walking the catwalk. But unfortunately, the fashion road to hell is often paved with good intentions. The garments were ill-fitted with only a few exceptions: the gold metallic camisole, gold metallic capris, the crème coat dress with the wide lapels, and a few other pieces that fit the models well, but were not all necessarily figure-flattering. What was glaringly obvious? Very few pieces actually flattered the wearer. And I certainly could have done without the 80s riding pants/calf-hugging culottes.

When I interviewed Louis, I asked him about his inspiration for this collection. This was his response: “I wanted things to have color in it. And the way people are following Michelle Obama and the way they want to iconize her, it caught my eye. She has style without even trying, and she inspires me. I wanted to relate this collection to all the black women and to empower them.”

Well, it looks like Louis Verdad created his Spring 2010 collection without even trying either. What appears to be a last minute, thrown together collection with ill-fitting garments—this may have been Verdad’s worst attempt at a collection. This was a classic case of the Emperor’s new clothes. Better luck next season, Louis Verdad!

Skingraft Spring 2010 Collection: Leather Edge and Sexiness in Strength Inspired by Amelia Earhart and Joan of Arc

With the hype of the film Amelia, I thought just maybe that was where the designers of Skingraft garnered their inspiration. Well, I was half right. Amelia Earhart and Joan of Arc were the inspirations for Skingraft ‘s Spring 2010 collection. It was a bizarre combination of leather, spikes, fitted bomber jackets, all topped off with what appeared to be aviator caps from the late 20s. Oddly, it all worked. And as each model walked the runway, I found myself anticipating the next piece. There was a parade of edgy spiked leather jackets, flamenco skirts, and leather pants. I didn’t think I liked it at first. It was so different, so unexpected, so dark . . . yet so utterly hip! The colors were mostly dark and very “unspringlike,” consisting of blacks and rich browns, with the occasional grey and muted earth tones. The coolest look that caught my eye was the white princess lace skirt with black outer tracing. Don’t ask me how, but everything worked.

Skingraft consists of three designers: Jonny Cota, Cassidy Haley, and Katie Kay; and this was only their second fashion week. Both showings proved to be hugely successful for the relatively new line. Since the label’s launch, many celebrities have been spotted and photographed in it, including Black Eyed Peas and Fergie, Adam Lambert, and Kat Von D.

What was particularly thematic about this last fashion week? Los Angeles’s emerging designers. And with true underground style, Skingraft epitomized just that. Skingraft uses distressed leathers and furs, painting and antique canvases, and masochistic metal detailing and corsetry. Other distinguishing features include elongated Victorian necks and punk-inspired metal work. The design trio used to travel the world as circus performers and costumers, which could explain a lot. Their collection accommodates both sexes, and they truly have acquired a burgeoning cult following.

Leather vests, fitted bomber jackets lined with fur, khaki short shorts were all featured on the runway. I liked Skingraft’s use of color. In keeping with spring, Jonny, Cassidy, and Katie were not afraid to use white. The white leather skinny pant was paired nicely with a matching jacket with front zippersand black leather spiked-heeled boots added a nice touch. The men wore knickers with ankle boots, leather vests, and aviator caps. The final piece in the show was a metal-studded black leather bridal gown that was Victorian-inspired, topped off with a feather headband.

Face of the Month: Interview with Ash Gupta

What was your inspiration for starting “Face of the Month”?

After 25-30 years in the industry, after seeing so many faces, one would think that they would blur; but instead of blurring together, there began to be standout faces, faces that stood-out, not because of their bone structure or eye color, but rather because of what lay inside and behind the faces:  the empathy and intelligence, the education and values.  This is just a humble effort of a fashion photographer to help bring recognition to the extraordinary, but sometimes overlooked qualities of beauty that make up a face behind the painted eyes and dusted cheeks.

Is the FOM only a female, or do you also choose men?

I primarily work with women and find my work tends to weigh towards feminine subjects.  Naturally, I see beauty most obvious in women, though male subjects often fall into the fashion equation.

I notice since we started FOM on Agenda, each month the person chosen is from either an exotic place or has a very interesting background.  What is your selection process that makes somebody a good candidate for FOM?

I work in an industry peopled by a very diverse crowd, in addition to Los Angeles, the city we’re based out of, being a rich cultural mecca.  Modeling as a profession also brings together a huge collective of nationalities and ethnicities, as well. So far the “Face of the Month” choices have ranged from an Israeli, an Indian-heritaged girl born in New Zealand, and a Muscovite.  Their skills also vary and have spanned from combat sniper/bio-geneticist to hula hooping psychologist.  But they all stand out in an extraordinary fashion.

I love the editorials you do on each person.  What is the inspiration for those?  Tell us a little about your shooting and creative processes.

One’s stories always begin based on what they have read, seen, and imagined when incidents are pieced together, one after another—they form a story.  This isalso how cliches are born; after a certain age of experience, one begins to break these cliches, whether they involve technique or creative temperance.

Do you have to be a model to be considered?  What in your opinion makes a good model?

The selection process usually involves subjects crossing my path, whether through a commercial/editorial or artistic venture.  These faces are primarily made up of fashion models, though a model is merely the most refined example of what one is trying to illustrate.  There are many types of models, and though we traditionally work with agency-represented girls that are professionally pursuing an active career that brings them in front of my camera, we do welcome submissions for “Face of the Month.”

Purchase a Present for Your Pooch This Holiday Season!

Those of us who have a pet will understand just how much a part of our family these adorable little creatures are. Our pets comfort us when we’re down, and are always happy to see us no matter what. Well . . . maybe not all pets. Cats can take you or leave you. Horses require a lot of maintenance, and I’ll save birds, reptiles, and those from the rat family for another occasion. But dogs? You gotta love em’! This gift guide was designed to offer a selection of items that will make you and your pooch happy.

Ralph Lauren for Dogs http://www.ralphlauren.com

Got a tiny pup? Ralph Lauren has great little outfits for your little pooch at reasonable prices. If you buy during the holidays, you’re sure to find great deals ranging from $60 to $500.

Reversible Sporty Puffer Vest – $87.50 (normal price $125)

USA Sporting Shawl Fleece – $52.50 (normal price $75)

Alligator Lock Collar – $224.00 (normal price $495)

Doggie Bags for Toy Dogs

Diana by Creature Couture – $189.99

http://www.thedoggiebagboutique.com/inc/sdetail/548

A fashionable carrier from Creature Couture, this bag is stylish, fun, and modern with its sleek lines and smooth pleather and available in

sophisticated black and white.  Capacity is up to 8lbs.

The Ruff Ruff Couture® Coco Bow® Carrier features quilted pleather with patent handles and bows, 2 outside pockets, inside zipper pocket, removable plush pad, interior leash, doubled sided mesh panels, and bottom metal studs to protect your bag.

Funny Fur Price:  $140.00

http://www.funnyfur.com/coco-bow-carrier.aspx

PETote Metro Pet Carrier

The Metro bag by PETote has the distinctive designer handbag look and features Italian leather trim, gold plated hardware, and high end fabrics. Perfect for the poshpooch!

Starting at $360.00

http://www.funnyfur.com/petote-metro-pet-carrier.aspx

Dog Beds

With so many choices for doggie beds, it can be confusing to decide. But if you are a discerning pet owner with chic taste, just any pet bed won’t do. Below is a selection of designer pet beds that will complement just about any interior decor.

1.      Nikki Dog Bed – Raised Wood Base with Metal Legs – $259 for small, $329.00 for medium, and $439.00 for medium

http://www.ohmydogsupplies.com/nikki-dog-bed.html

2.      The Persian Kilim Napper Dog Bed was inspired by centuries old patterns and hand woven by skilled artisans. The Kilim cover of this unique dog bed is hand spun from vegetable-dyed wool backedby durable cotton duck.

·        36″L x 36″W x 5″H

·        Filled with cotton ticking for lasting comfort and support

·        Imported

The Persian Kilim Napper Dog Bed adds style to any room and of course, a comfortable spot to lounge.

$169.00 http://www.fetchdog.com/pet-supplies/dog-beds/dog-pillows/persian-kilim-napper/H10047

3.      Canine Chaise gives any room a redefined feel.
Spoil your dog with the supreme comfort of the Canine Chaise Lounge. This modern piece of pet furniture has a solid double foam base, and you can choose to attach the carved sloping arm to either side of the chaise. The accent pillows provide a luxurious touch to this exemplary crafted design.

· Available in Small, Medium and Large

· Top cushion removes for easy cleaning

· All covers are machine washable

· Accent pillows are included

· Upholstery grade foam increases longevity

The style and taste this dog bed will add to your home cannot be measured. Purchase a truly wonderful piece of designer furniture. $209.95

http://www.pet-super-store.com/html/Canine-Chaise-Lounge-Right.html

Doggie Toys

If you have a handbag obsessed hound the Chewy Vuitton Plush Squeak Toy Handbag

is perfect for an afternoon of shopping on 5th Ave. This is a product of HDD notaffiliated
with any designer.

Price $10.00 http://www.hautedogboutique.com

ZISC

This great flying fetch toy is made from a pliable material that is extremely tough, but gentle on your dogs mouth. It also is a very fast flyer. It comes in 3 great vivid colors. Dimensions: 8.5″ Your dog will love it! $14.97

http://www.blingblingpuppy.com/zisc-pr-209.html

Berber Fleece Bone Toy for Big Dogs – 22″

An oversized fleece berber bone for the big dogs to chew, toss and tug on.

Features:

  • Made of ultra-thick, durable fleece
  • Doubled stitched to endure hours of pawing, pulling, tugging, chewing, andbiting.
  • Only the best, longest-lasting squeaker noisemakers are sewn inside
  • Size:  22″ – Almost 2 feet long!

$14.99